Complicated

Sometimes it's hard to understand whether or not people truely care about you. Being a male I find it very difficult figuring this out with women. Don't get me wrong I love my women, but there are times that they are the most stressful creatures on earth! At least for me. I think it is mostly because of the type of person that I am. Women have told me that I am too nice and that I have no confidence in myself. It is always something that I am doing wrong. I on the other hand feel extremely confident in myself. Sometimes I think that these girls are talking about someone else entirely. Agreed, I am a very nice person, but is that necessarily a bad thing? I don't think that it is. Since when has being a gentleman and having the courtesy of not constantly pressuring a woman to have sexual intercourse as soon as one meets them been viewed as a "he is just a friend type of guy" move? I have gone out with different types of girls over the years, and it's true. They love the traditional "douchebag" that only treats them with love and care when they are in trouble or when they need something. I know it is true because I have done it. I have been the "bad-boy douche" in order to get girls to like me and it works, but why?! I envy the men who can mistreat their women without a care in the world because most women respond to that. However, it is not in me. I cannot be this "man" that women want me to be. I can only be me and from here on out that is how I am going to stay!